Somehow, somewhere people went off track.
They seem to think that when there’s a problem – particularly if it’s a problem of their own making – that someone else is obligated to fix it for them. Not only that, but they’re supposed to do so willingly, and with a smile on their face.
“You’ve got to do this,” they’ll tell you. “There’s (reasons) that this has to get done and done quickly, or my goose is cooked!”
No. I, and no one else either, have “got to” do anything at all to solve this emergency of your own making. I’m not related to you, I’m not your servant, and I’m not your Mr. Fix-It. It was your lack of planning, or inability to research that led to your predicament. You have no right to demand a solution from me.
Now, it’s quite another thing if you approach me and own up to the fact that the problem is of your own making, caused by your actions. Sure, it’s a hat-in-hand approach, but you’ll find that your request is taken a lot better by other people – myself included.
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